Nowadays because of American midterms we hear more and more about negotiations to end War in Ukraine. In fact, we kept hearing negotiations ever since war begun and despite countless efforts, peace proposals, fresh negotiators and more, it all went nowhere. The war is now longer than WWI or Soviet war against Germany during WWII.
Both sides claim, they want peace. Both willing to negotiate, why cannot peace be reached then. The answer is simple: unreasonable peace terms. Both sides are equally guilty of this, though Russia is more so. Russian demands amount to effective end of Ukraine as sovereign state and turning into Kremlin puppet state. No matter how you look at it no sane national leader will ever agree to something like that. Ukraine meanwhile wants Russia to be punished for invasion and made suffer as much damage as possible. Also, not a deal a someone willingly takes.
To put it frankly, these are not peace deals, negotiated between diplomats to the benefit of both parties. There are capitulation terms. The kind of terms that can only be imposed on a dying husk of a nation, when its entire military, economy and all government structures are already utterly destroyed by military means and its leaders either suicided or fled. Its Germany May of 1945 level capitulation, which German command still opposed even if not holding any land in Germany proper anymore, not a peace deal.
Terms of both sides are both punitive and crippling in nature, they aim to utterly destroy the opposing side. Surely from perspective of the side proposing them, they make sense, it's what they want to feel safe. However, if you try to walk in the other side shoes, look at that from their perspective and consider if you would accept such terms if someone else would try to impose them on you, the answer would be a resounding no.
That is why all peace efforts so far have come to naught. Both sides are utterly unwilling and incapable of considering the other side's interests and propose something that other side will consider reasonable.
WWII is to blame for that. That war ended with unconditional surrender of both Germany and Japan, though much forgotten Italy negotiated a favorable exist on reasonable terms with no occupation or loss of land or sovereignty. German and Japanese surrendered are widely remembered and celebrated while Italian exit is largely forgotten. That widely inflated expectations for all future wars. Now many politicians and warlords expect complete surrender from their opponent and capitulation to all demands, failing to understand that such demands are not something anyone will ever agree to and the only reason Nazi Germany signed something like that is because allies physically conquered and occupied almost every inch of Germany.
Worse yet, because after war Nazi ideology was condemned as inhuman universally reprehensible, now every modern invader evokes the same uncompromising attitude towards the enemy. "They are wrong and we are right, so they must change their ways completely to match ours." I would like to remind the forgetful WWII enthusiasts that Nazis never accepted any wrongdoing on their part, not long after war ended, their last words on Nuremberg Trials were "we were right", not "we are sorry", so it's unreasonable to expect someone to change their ways on the negotiations table, no matter how much you think there are wrong.
That is why modern wars last forever, until both sides utterly exhaust all their capacity and ability to continue fighting. And even after war ends, the animosity and hatred continues for many generations afterwards. Peace efforts are lengthy and grueling slog that often become but a ceasefire before war resumes sometime later. People keep talking about peace and peace never comes and killing continues.
It was not always like that. During 18th century negotiations indeed ended wars to if not to mutual satisfaction, then at least mutual benefit of both sides. So, what the negotiators of the old had that modern ones lacking. A simple understanding of interests of both sides. They saw negotiations not a mere ceremony where one side surrenders to the other but a deal from which both sides would benefit from.
They asked annexation of no more than half of what was conquered and offered return of the rest to the losing side as an insensitive to accept the loss of the ceded territories. Various financial compensations were offered for lands ceded and more. All to keep both sides happy. Winner gets some of what they managed to conquer, loser gets some of their lost assets returned in exchange for relinquishing rights to the rest. Compensations are paid; people are given time to move if their area is transferred.
Both sides get something out of it, so both sides are actually willing to sign. Thus, negotiations worked and brought real results. Negotiations were to find out the outcome and other arrangements, most agreeable to both sides, not an attempt to pressure, blackmail, coerce or make propaganda statements.
Compare that to modern "negotiations" where both sides adopt holier than thou attitude, call their opponents something dehumanising and insist they agree with that, repent and make amends. It's not rational but emotional. "It's all these bastards' fault, so they must make amends to us, while we will throw eggs and tomatoes at them till the end of time." It's no wonder no one agrees to that nonsense. Then, when negations fail, they blame each other for refusing to agree to their completely one sided and unreasonable demands. Its infantile emotional name calling nonsense, not a negotiation.
Because of those most modern wars end with a protracted stalemate where de-facto military line of control gradually evolves into a permanent border that is more fortified and impassable than any legal border out there. Both sides then sit on either side of the border and call their enemies mean names long after its all over. See Korean DMZ, the result of protracted Korean War of 1950-1953 as an example. This solution does not require negotiations, it's just naturally evolving because no side is willing to agree to anything and calls their opponents an illegitimate regime, refusing to negotiate with them.
In Ukraine Russia calls Ukrainian people Nazi, Zelensky illegitimate president and Euromaidan revolution a CIA coup. No one reasonable can expect any negotiated outcome from this premise alone. Do you really think Zelensky will just relinquish power because Russia called him illegitimate or Ukrainians will accept punitive measures against their culture, history and language because Russia called them Nazis? Of course, no. If Russia really wants something out of these negotiations, then it has to stop its pointless insults and accept that Zelensky and system created by Euromaidan will stay. If it fails to do so, then it's not a negotiation but waste of time.
Ukraine fights back by saying Russia should be punished because it's an aggressor. While Russia is indeed aggressor, it's unlikely they will accept that at the negotiation table. Yet it will be better if Putin, Lavrov, Rogozin and Dugin end up in Hauge Tribunal for human rights, but it will not happen, unless Ukraine captures them by hand and drags them down to Hague.
Fundamentally there is nothing more to do in Ukraine but to accept that current de-facto border (military line of control) will remain as it is for good. War gave us the answer where the demarcation line is, now everyone just has to accept it and move on.
Idea that something more can be negotiated here is but a pure fantasy. The sooner both sides awaken to this truth, the sooner we can finally put an end to war and move on.
It's the same in other wars like US - Iran war or Libyan Civil War. No rational arguments, just emotions and desire to wreck things out of spite.



